"Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to your brother; then come and offer your gift." - Matthew 5:23-24
Halloween is fast approaching, and I am being haunted. Not by a ghost or goblin, not by a spirit or apparition, not even by some scheming trick-or-treaters, but by these words. When I listen to a song, they are there. When I hear a sermon, they are there. When I journal, they are there. When I pray, they are there. Sometimes I'm reminded of Shaggy in Scooby-Doo, walking around with his hand behind his back, feeling the air to convince himself that a ghost isn't following behind him. Except I don't need to feel the air. I know I'm being followed.
The word of God has a tendency to haunt people from time to time. It has great power-- power to convict and power to judge righteously over the thoughts and intentions of man. Its reading can lead to forgiveness, reconciliation and eternal life. It chisels away at even the hardest of hearts while embracing the humble in spirit.
The man who uttered the words of Matthew 5 was in fact Himself on a mission of reconciliation. Only He had never sinned against anyone. His only guilt was that He had too much love for a world that had sinned against Him countless times. Reconciliation-- made possible through His crucifixion, burial and resurrection-- was, for Him, not an option.
Neither should it be an option for us. We should mourn, and our hearts should be broken, for every estranged friend and shattered relationship. We should be willing to forgive unconditionally and reconcile with brothers and sisters in Christ who have committed even the most heinous sins against us. We should run with outstretched arms to those who have lied to us, spread false rumors about us, and betrayed us, at the first light of their repentance.
This is all much easier said than done, however. What if we find ourselves in a situation where reconciliation is impossible, this side of heaven? What if we've hurt or been hurt by someone, and seeing them again is too painful (for us or them) to endure? Or what if the brother or sister we've sinned against is simply unwilling to forgive?
The man who has the answers to all these questions will be a rich man, indeed. But fortunately for me, the verses from Matthew aren't the only words that have been haunting my mind. Every time I've sought an answer to these questions, the words, "Victory remains with love" have been imprinted on my mind. This phrase is a reference to Christ on the cross, but to me it also refers to something else-- the final victory, made possible through the cross: a time when in heaven, God, through His love, will right all that we sinful humans have managed to maim and destroy here on earth. All will be reconciled, all will be healed, all will be made whole, and He will wipe away every tear from every eye.
But what about the present? Heaven seems so far away at times. For the present, also, victory remains with love. We can love our estranged brothers and sisters in Christ, even from afar, in several ways. First, we can forgive them, wholly and unconditionally, regardless of their stance toward us. Second, we can continue to turn the other cheek-- responding to any and every new offense with love. Third, we can pray for them-- perhaps for their forgiveness, or for their welfare or spiritual growth. Finally, we can continue to look toward reconciliation-- whether here on earth or one day in heaven.
Because for now, and for all eternity, victory remains with love.